This is one of the many things my daddy tried to drill into my head when I was a girl. I’m sure he thought I wasn’t listening. See dad? I was listening. All your gray hairs were not totally in vain.

Nice girls don’t call boys

Nice girls do not have short hair like boys (do NOT send me life threatening emails about this)

Nice girls don’t wear red fingernail polish-or toenail polish at all

Nice girls don’t wear just about anything I tried to wear. Notice I said triedto wear. My dad would turn me back at the door if he didn’t approve of my clothes. (From the look of things parents don’t do this much anymore.) I spent alot of time at my best friends house and her parents did this too.

There were more but the point is- I think the lines have been seriously blurred. I blame feminism. What is a boy to think?

We have been reading the Voddie Baucham book,What He Must Be If He Wants To Marry My Daughter, with our four oldest. I LOVE hearing what my kids are thinking. Even if what they are thinking drives me crazy. Last week we talked alot about the blessing of children & dove in head first into the murky waters of child prevention. Interesting. Extremely encouraging- they live it. They know.

Any-who…. This week we had a boy talk. We talked about what would be desirable in a young women (I have always taught my daughters this but have just recently felt the need to share these things with my boys) Nice girls don’t(shouldn’t) call boys. Or like boys. By like boys I mean indulge “crushes”. It goes without saying , I hope, that a 12,14 0r 16 year old should not be thinking of boys. (NTS No rabbit trail, no rabbit trail No rabbit trail!) I guess I have been naive. Maybe you think I’m old fashioned. Girls do call boys these days. Even (gasp!) homeschooled girls. In fact, some young ladies are down right boy crazy. So whats a young man to think? We tell him that he will be head of his home someday, that he is to be the one doing the pursuing. So what did I tell my boys?

It used to be commonly known that a man was to win the heart of a woman. He was to woo her. Pursue her. Faint heart never won fair lady & all that. That all implies that the female of the species was not exactly easy pickings, low hanging fruit. You get what you pay for- if you know what I mean. So why are so many young ladies out there desperately grasping, throwing their hearts out for any man to pick up. Emily has encountered online communities where the whole purpose of all these girls, that are “trusting” God to find them a husband, is to bemoan the fact that they, at 19, are old maids. No wonder our boys think all girls are desperate, easy pickings.

Well, to make a long story short- I told my boys to look for a girl that is contentedly serving the Lord, her family and waiting & trusting the Lord for whatever her future is to be. They are out there. They hold themselves to a high standard and expect you to also. With the Lords help, strive to be worthy. Strap on your boots and show thyself a man.

Oh. And a good thing to remember when it comes to what girls think of you. As my dear friend so aptly put it “You think you’re hot ____ but you’re really cold _______. ” 

 

Funny conversation with Annie this morning

Annie- ( holding the movie box to Prince Caspian) “Lucy is so pretty. You see Susan? She wearing globsof make-up. Ya’ k now, it’s like Gisselle, they want to be sooo pretty and think they look so good when the really are making themselves look ugly.”